When you look at someone like Elena Rybakina, the first thing people say is always the same: she’s calm, she never reacts, she stays composed no matter what. It almost looks like nothing touches her. And if you stop there, you miss the whole point. Because that kind of “calm” is often misunderstood. It’s not that nothing is happening inside. It’s that what’s happening doesn’t come out in a way that breaks her game.

WHAT YOU THINK CALM MEANS (AND WHY IT’S WRONG)

Most players think being calm means not feeling anything. No frustration, no tension, no reaction. Almost like you should switch everything off. But that’s not real. And it’s not what top players do. They feel everything. They just don’t let it control what happens next.

The difference is subtle, but it changes everything.

WHAT HAPPENS TO YOU INSTEAD

If you’re honest, when something doesn’t go your way, it shows immediately. Maybe not in a big reaction, but in small ways.

Your body slows down.
Your timing changes.
Your decisions become less clear.

Even if you don’t say anything, it’s there. And point after point, that small shift becomes bigger.

IT’S NOT THE EMOTION. IT’S WHAT YOU DO AFTER

The mistake is thinking that emotion is the problem. It’s not. You can feel frustration, tension, even anger. That’s normal. The real issue is what happens right after.

Do you stay in it?
Do you carry it into the next point?
Do you let it change how you play?

That’s where the damage is.

WHY SOME PLAYERS LOOK “UNTOUCHABLE”

Players like Rybakina don’t look calm because nothing affects them. They look calm because nothing stays.

The point ends… and it’s over.
The mistake happens… and it’s done.

There’s no carryover.

And because there’s no carryover, the next point starts clean.

WHERE YOU ACTUALLY LOSE CONTROL

You don’t lose control when something goes wrong. You lose control when you bring it with you into the next point. That’s where matches start slipping.

Not in the big mistake.
But in the small accumulation after it.

IF YOU PAY ATTENTION…

Think about your last match. Not the big moments. The small ones.

How many points did you play while still thinking about the previous one?

That’s where your level drops.

A SIMPLE SHIFT TO TRY

Next time you play, don’t try to be calm. Don’t try to control how you feel.

Do something simpler.

Let the reaction happen…
but don’t let it stay.

Reset. Move. Play.

That’s it.

IN THE END, IT’S THIS

It’s not about becoming emotionless.
It’s about not carrying emotion forward.

Because the match is always played in the present point. Not the previous one.

FINAL TRUTH

You don’t lose because you feel too much.
You lose because you don’t let it go fast enough.

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Federico Coppini
Mental Coach & Tennis Coach
Founder – Coppini Tennis Academy
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